FOUNDER'S NOTE

Solitude has acquired a new meaning in the last few years. You are never alone as long as your mobile is with you.

See some simple activities above, which you can do easily. Get back to reading, be with nature, enjoy human company, reach out to someone who needs emotional support.  That is LIFE !!!

Anger comes and goes.  But Hate is a very strong emotion which, once it engulfs you, is very difficult to get over. 

Individuals develop hate, whole families develop hatred towards someone, one community hates another for hundreds of years, and entire nations build strong hate which results in wars and destruction.  This largely due to polarization, which thrives on the principle:

“If you’re not for us, you are against us”

What I believe in is that “There is so little time to love, how do we get the time to hate….?” I also believe that if someone does something really bad to us, let us hate the action, and not the person.

We can overcome hatred if we practice the principle of Wayne Dyer who said:

Be “for” something rather than “against” something. 

At times someone we trust or love hurts us badly.

The person may have let us down, cheated us, humiliated us or ignored us.  When outsiders do the same we are upset for some time but we recover and move on.  But if the person was (or is) very dear to us then it becomes difficult to get over, and the emotional hurt persists for a long time.

Here are some simple tips to reduce the pain and thereby become more relaxed or functional:

1. Acknowledge and Accept Your Feelings, label them
2. Practice Self-Compassion
3. Challenge Negative Thought Patterns
4. Cultivate Forgiveness
5. Spend time with those who have been good to you
6. Do Healing Activities
7. Set Boundaries in to prevent hurt in future

Don’t expect quick results.  The above have to be practiced regularly for a long time before you feel lighter.  Best of luck!

Importance of subjects in career selection:

Proficiency in particular subjects does contribute towards selection of career, but it should not be the main criteria. Some points that need to be taken into consideration:

1. Scoring high in a subject does not necessarily mean the student is good in it, it could be due to a good teacher or sense of duty
2. Proficiency in a subject is only the foundation. Many other factors need to be evaluated e.g. A doctor has to be good in biology, but must also have the ability to communicate with and understand different types of people.
3. Hence there should not be over-emphasis on good scores in particular subjects, particularly if the student is not showing overall proficiency
4. Some students/parents think that taking up science at +2 level “keeps all options open.” They are only postponing the decision, and it may also lead to student getting pushed towards a field which is not the most suitable career.
5. Not taking science at +2 level only cuts off a few careers related to technology and life sciences. There would still be a choice of hundreds of other promising careers.
6. Always check whether the student is showing interest in the subject ‘beyond the syllabus’, i.e. he likes to explore all aspects of that field even those which are not taught.
7. Those who plan to get into pure sciences (including social sciences) and make research, teaching, documentation, quality control as their career, can be encouraged to go deeper into the subject they are good at.

Here are two classic examples:

Srinivasa Ramanujam, the greatest mathematician that India produced a hundred years ago, could solve the most intricate math problems, score 100/100 in any math related test, but he kept failing continuously in all other subjects, and was considered a failure.

Venkatraman Ramakrishnan (also known as Venky) graduated in Physics from MS University Baroda, and went on to win the Nobel Prize in Chemistry.

Hence we need to look at the long term potential of any candidate, differentiate between those who just have a passion, and those who are backed up with skills and talent.