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04 Mar

Preparing for Marriage

Somebody wisely said,  “We are only concerned about weddings, and not about marriage.”  Indeed  marriage is one relationship which can take us to the ecstasy of paradise, and it can push us into the deepest hell.  Knowing how marital relationship affects not only husband and wife, but also the children, we need to give much more attention to nurturing, strengthening and directing the marital bond at every stage of life.

I have been working extensively on this issue at a practical level with couples of all ages. I have presented it in a small booklet for those intending to marry, or those who wish to help youngsters enter into matrimony with the right expectations, called “Preparing for Marriage.”    I am also open to anyone who wishes to improve their relationship, not necessarily when it is going bad or becoming difficult.

The reality is that we can actually follow some proven techniques on connecting at man-woman level and thus ensure that the whole family benefits from the harmony and love that it spreads.

I truly wish we all get together and help each other in better understanding and handling of this most important relationship.

 -Ali

Banjara Academy

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How do you feel when a New Year starts?

Every year, every month, every Monday, and every day is a new beginning. It depends on how you face each milestone in life.

Some people get up, go to the window, and say, “Good Morning, God”.  Others look out and say, “Good God, Morning!”

I have admired amazingly some people who go through the worst of setbacks, bereavement, pain or obstacles, and they still have a smile on their face.  Have you wondered how they can do it – or do you just admire them and go on with your own life?

Don’t ask whether the New Year is happy or not – create your own weather and spread happiness to others.

Usefulness of “Boring” subjects

Some students lose interest in particular subjects either because they find them too “difficult”, boring, or if the teacher does not teach well.  The above parameters need to be dealt with by the respective teachers, but there may be loss of interest towards subjects which they feel will not be useful to them in future, particularly when they have selected a particular career.

History helps us analyze behavior of human beings, and thus anticipate how people are likely to react in diverse situations.  We can learn from the past (and the mistakes of others) how to lead our life today.  We can even predict how society, the markets or lifestyles are likely to change so that we can adapt suitably.

Geography gives us a sense of direction, helps us get around by understanding the physical characteristics of nature and the world around us.  We can appreciate diverse cultures, climates (including weather forecasting), explore every part of the world, climate change and ecology which affect our lives in many ways.

Languages have an important role to play in helping us improve communication, understand others and be understood by others.  They expand our horizon of knowledge, and are our windows for the thinking process.  They help us relate to different types of people all over the world.

  • An International language like English is our window to the rest of the world, the most obvious one being the World Wide Web or the Internet. In most parts of the world we can get along if we can communicate well in English.
  • Our link language Hindi binds the nation together and is a bridge across many states.
  • The State language binds us to the poorest and simplest of all people in the region. We can connect well even to illiterate or rural persons, correspond with the government and feel locally connected.

Science is the window to development, it ignites your curiosity and opens your eyes to the great wonders going on in the world around us.  You develop an innovative mind and understand the laws of nature.  It is also the catalyst for change in society.  Each part of science viz. physics, chemistry and biology, helps us understand different facets ranging from measurement of space and time, to interaction of materials, to living organisms.  Together they constitute the essence of the entire world, and the study of science never goes waste regardless of the career you finally choose.

Chemistry, which is considered boring and irrelevant by many students, is the study of life, as it deals with properties of substances and life processes. We are made of chemicals. It teaches us about germs and bacteria, soaps, medicines, food, salt, tears, medicines, energy, climate change, fuels for cars and spacecraft, silicon chips and batteries for computers. And ……you fall in love when the “chemistry” is right.

Math is a subject that sharpens our logical and reasoning powers, builds analytical thinking, the ability to calculate prices, manage money and understand the value of things. With a thorough understanding of Math we can safeguard our interests and be secure throughout life. We can use it to estimate, project, manipulate data, solve intricate problems of life, compare and evaluate.  Geometry gives us a better understanding of space and areas.

Do you recall some bad days, painful memories, failures – and do you try to forget them?

Many wise people tell us: Don’t run away from sadness, setbacks, hurdles or grief.  These are the experiences that make us truly enjoy happiness and contentment. If someone has not experienced failures or downturns, he can never get the full joy and satisfaction of success and achievements. 

Whenever you go through a bad phase or setback and then recover, don’t try to forget it.  Keep it close to your heart and cherish those sad memories – remind yourself that most bad times do pass away & life goes on.

Look forward: hope can be your greatest asset.