We may have some good friends, but we think ten times before reaching out to an “outsider”. We find someone nice, worth befriending, but we wonder whether the other person would be interested in us, and thus hold back. There is certainly a desire to get attention and affection, but we wait to see and hope whether he/she will reach out or make the first move. Perhaps the same thought is going on in the other person’s mind.
If this stalemate continues, people think that you are very reserved, even egoistic, and are not interested in making friends. When we get into this loneliness, we inevitably attract the wrong type of friends who are very forthcoming but not necessarily genuine.
So, the next time you see someone you like, give a warm smile, take a step forward and offer your hand (or elbow if you are still in covid phase).
